Learn the positions to help reach orgasm

Better Orgasms In 5 Positions

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When it comes to the Big O (AKA earth-shattering orgasms), it’s not always as simple as we think. For many people, particularly those with erogenous zones like the clitoris, penetrative sex alone may not be enough to reach a climax¹. Some may prefer toys, oral sex, or fingering: there are countless ways to feel good. And, while there’s no pressure for sex to be measured in the ability to orgasm, if you are looking for some position tips to help you climax, we’ve got a few up our sleeves.

Just remember, there’s no one way to do it and if a position doesn’t feel right to you and your partner(s), you can try things out with consent to see what works for you. But before we start on the best positions, let’s answer the question:

What Is an Orgasm?

An orgasm occurs at the climax of sexual excitement and is accompanied by warm and pleasurable sensations. It occurs as the result of masturbation, oral sex, penetrative sex, and other forms of stimulation. It can even occur as a result of hypnosis and mind control. Orgasms are associated with a whole host of health benefits, including mental satisfaction, a reduction in blood pressure, and a boost in endorphins. For men, it is almost always accompanied by ejaculation, whereby semen shoots out of the penis.

What Does an Orgasm Feel Like?

Orgasms are characterized by an incredibly pleasurable feeling. It creates a euphoric-like sensation, making it one of the best things on the planet. After orgasm, your neck, chest, and face may also feel flushed. Additionally, you will naturally feel much happier after orgasm, as well as sleepy, making it the perfect activity to engage in before bedtime.

Different Types of Orgasms

Men and women can both experience multiple orgasms and different types of orgasms depending on which body part is being stimulated. For men, the most traditional orgasm is the penile orgasm, which ends in ejaculation. But men can also be stimulated through the P-spot, i.e. the prostate, which is found within the anus. This can be stimulated through manual stimulation (the fingers) or through receiving anal sex.

As for women, there are three main categories of orgasms. The most common is the clitoral orgasm, which is achieved through stimulation of the clitoris, usually from cunnilingus, manual masturbation, or through using a sex toy. Women can also achieve orgasm in the vagina through penetration or in their breasts, through repeated arousal.

Factors that Can Affect Orgasms

Orgasms are affected by a variety of factors. The most important one is usually the speed and technique of either partner. Generally speaking, the faster you engage in sex, the more excitable your erogenous zones will be, bringing you to a sexual climax faster. Additionally, while sexual excitement relies on some friction, too much can lessen the chance of orgasm. This is why lubes can help people to orgasm quicker and often increase the pleasure in the process.

Differences Between Male and Female Orgasm

Men and women have different bodies. This extends to how they experience sex and their ability to orgasm. The most noticeable difference between male and female orgasm is the ejaculation. While women do produce some ejaculate when they come, including, in some cases, a squirted fluid, it is much more common in men and accompanies almost every penile orgasm. Women also have far more nerve endings in the clitoris, so some ladies claim that women have better orgasms than men. The only downside to this so-called benefit is that women have orgasms during sex much less than men.

Common Reasons Why Women Can’t Orgasm

While men orgasm 90% of the time during sex, women only orgasm about half of the time¹. There are many reasons for this, coming down to cultural perceptions about the difference in men and women’s needs. If you are a woman and you are finding it hard to orgasm, consider the following reasons:

Little to no foreplay before intercourse
Lack of physical or romantic attraction to your partner
Vaginal dryness
Anorgasmia
Certain medical conditions
Side effects of medication
Obesity
Anxiety and depression
The wrong sex positions or techniques
Lack of lubrication

This can be rather stressful, but thankfully for you, we have a wide variety of positions that you can your partner can try to reach the big O in no time.

For many people, penetrative sex alone may not be enough to reach a climax

1. Revamped Missionary

If you don’t usually orgasm from penetration alone or prefer to have non-penetrative sex, this one might just be for you. Begin in the missionary sex position, with you on your back and your partner on top of you. Have them pull their body up towards your head so that their pelvis is slightly higher than yours. You can also put some cushions underneath your hips for more support.

From here, they can move their body in more of a gentle grinding action or figure of eight against your pelvis. This can help to stimulate areas like the clitoris and feel good for both of you. It’s a good idea to consider trying some lube for a more sensual experience and if you do move into any kind of penetrative sex, the person on their back can place their legs on their partner’s shoulders for deeper penetration.

2. Revamped On Top

Similar to the Revamped Missionary, but for this one, you swap places with whoever was on top last time. From here, simply straddle your partner forwards or backwards, so you’re facing their face or feet. You can grind against their body, lean into different angles, and if you are having penetrative sex, control the rhythm, depth, and angle of penetration.

Your partner can run their fingers down your back, caress your erogenous zones and body as you move together, or use a sex toy. Super sensual, super simple.

3. Downward Doggy

Start on your hands and knees, as a partner kneels or stands behind you. In this position, you’ve got loads of options for mind-blowing orgasms. The person behind can gently kiss their partner’s erogenous zone and build into oral sex. Perhaps you’ll want to try a toy or some lube for extra stimulation. And, if you’re having any kind of penetrative sex, they can hold onto your hips as they move.

To change the angle of penetration, get down on your elbows. The intensity of this position could allow for stimulation of the elusive G-spot. Another option is to lower your chest to the bed as you leave your hips high in the air and your partner crouches low. You or your partner can then stimulate sensitive areas while moving together.

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4. The Bridge

This is another position that could help bring you or your partner closer to an orgasm. Begin by lying on your back as a partner kneels in front of you. While on your back, bend your knees and place your feet flat on the bed, then arch your hips up towards the ceiling, so you’re in the shape of a low bridge.

Your partner can then use their mouth, hands, toys, whatever feels good for you, to bring you closer to that Big O. And, if you’re having penetrative sex, they can step into the space between your legs, holding your hips to use them as leverage.

5. Sideways Spoon

As well as being sensual and intimate, as your partner will be cuddling you from behind, this is one of the easiest positions for dual stimulation. Lie on your sides with your partner behind you so that you’re both facing the same direction, as you push your bum towards them.

You can touch yourselves, gently press a vibrator to your favorite spots or, if you’re having penetrative sex, the person behind can reach around and stimulate all those important erogenous zones.

And last but not least, positions with an honorary mention include kitchen tables (that aren’t too high) and sturdy, supportive chairs you can straddle your partner on. You can also lean against a wall, while the person leaning wraps a leg around the other. So try things out, see what works, and find the way to your best climax.